Saturday, June 21, 2014

10 yrs of learning ..

Just like today it was late that night as well, the rats and bats were snoring but I was tossing and turning in my bed. I don’t recall what I was thinking that night, as it has been 10 yrs since then but today I am clear about all that I have learnt in the last 10 years of our marriage. Few that come to my mind …
  • Usually it is a man who says this to his wife but in my case it was oolta… you told me “Papa ke paer chuo”, well at my place it is only on a b’day or marriage anniversary or festivals that you take blessings. Yahan tho jab milo tab paer chuo…anyways lesson no. 1 was learnt !
  • When you made that Idli and I asked you to ask my mother to get the secret behind my mother’s soft idlis, I learnt my second lesson – If I want, I can eat what you cook or else I am free to go back to mummy :-)
  • Your effort and love needs to be appreciated, so what if I have to wear starched underwear :-(
  • I used to like cooking,  cooking used to be my stress buster but a full time baawarchi is a stressful job. The lesson learnt is -  I need to be careful about showcasing my skills in the future
  • When you share your concerns, you don’t want solutions. You just want me to listen
  • When you share your concerns, you want solutions. You don’t want me to just listen
Above 2 are contradictory and that is why I never understood these 2 lessons, clearing IIT entrance is easier. Anyways, I am trying and I guess I do pass occasionally
  • Over years i have learnt that lying helps in avoiding conflicts, especially when I have to talk about  how great you look in those bright and colorful clothes
  • I learnt it the hard way that I should continue to take permission before I plan for an evening with friends. Earlier it was parents now it is you (nothing changed for me, it is status quo )
  • I think like most girls or women you feel great whenever there is a public display of love and affection….my blogs are a proof that I am doing good there J
  • I have decided never to refute your choices. I have realized your choices are better than mine, after all you chose me ;-)
By the way, it is quite late in the night and  it is not that I am not feeling sleepy.  I came in to sleep about an hour back and I tried to make space for myself but then our 2 kids and you have hijacked the bed. Find me in kids room when you wake up !

happy 10th marriage anniversary and many more to come …